I really wasn't gonna post an article this week-- just the sexy pics to the right from local ads on Craig's List (craigslist.com). But fucking Charlene, one of my best "platonic blog-buddies" (we just say the F word, not do it w/ each other. LOL) changed my mind. Charlene amazed me with a very complimentary and unexpected listing on her sexy site which just won a nice award! See http://charlene-in-ar.blogspot.com/ She implied I had a blog worth checking out, so how could I leave her high & dry? Don't really have a pic to use. I'm doing my OWN form of grieving these days, I'm sure.
Two nights ago I texted my younger son and actually got a reply from my older son (he normally lends the cell to his Bro for a graveyard-shift, security job.) I was surprised as #1 told me his mother was not doing well at all and that is why he has been incommunicado for the last month or more! Ex- got breast cancer shortly after she bailed out of our longterm marriage, "no-fault", a decade ago. It's been in remission but she started having trouble again last year. Her communication with me has always been most dysfunctional and manipulative in a passive-aggressive (closed-mouth) way.
My adult sons live with her in Tallahassee now to help pay the monthly bills. I KNEW they would pick up her terrible communication ways, Dammit! But no one listens to ME cuz I've only taught an Interpersonal Communications course to Juniors and Seniors at Florida State University for a few years! I was only licensed to diagnose & treat mental health problems for 10 years as a Florida Licensed Mental Health Counselor. Don't listen to ME (particularly, if your typical personality coping mechanisms include Denial and Projection!) [Believe me, I understand empathically the essential details of her Past causing that, too.] But no matter how badly she treated me through lies and deception as long as I've known her, you (Dear Reader) have not had a chance to suffer the same treatment so you will be inclined to dislike my negative comments about her, truthful as they are.
Here's my point though. Older son texted me back with the excuse that he had been incommunicado because he has been taking care of her. Here's the exact text msg (sic): "Bro 'n I havnt told you for the reason u'll be glad when she dies then she cant suck the life out of ya." Well, Crap -- that is rather UNTRUE but, by not communicating about her for over a year, how the hell could I give info feedback to correct the GIANT MISPERCEPTION he has been harboring. I texted him straightforwardly, "That's NOT TRUE! I HATE her & what she's done but I don't want her to die because that will just make MORE problems for me!" Not the least of which, I explained, is that I am concerned about how upset and disoriented THEY are going to be over her death. I emphasized how critical it is that both sons get into some decent grief counseling program with a licensed psychologist or mental health or grief counselor.
AGAIN, I emphasized how essential that is right now -- especially since they ignored my advice on this a YEAR ago. "Hey, it's only Dad -- Fuck HIM! What does HE know?" Thanks a lot for what you've produced, my twisted Ex-. You are NOT "the Bitch" you told the sons you had been to me (cuz that gives you an excuse, you think.) You WERE, however, a Fucking Asshole! Even with Death, you will keep me from getting fair treatment!
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