And now for the answers...

Here are the correct answers to our last post:


1. Very few people know I secretly like country and western music.

This one is Matt.

I just happened to be scanning the radio once and came across a country station and the song was just so upbeat. And this was one of those "cry in my beer" songs where the guy's girlfriend just dumped him because all he was doing was "havin' me some lovin' from the girl next door" and she found out about it and "shoved him out the door."

Then he got in his pickup truck and headed to the local "waterin' hole" and got plastered on rotgut whiskey just to show her what she was "missin' by not gettin' me" or something like that!

The lyrics are often kinda silly, but there's some good ones out there like the classic Patsy Cline and Hank Williams, Sr.

For the record, C & W is not my favorite music, but if I'm in the right mood, it can be a lot of fun. And Harvard University (which is in our area) actually has a radio station that plays C & W on Saturday mornings called Hillbilly at Harvard.


2. When I was a freshman in high school, I seriously thought about studying dance professionally. I wanted to be one of those backup dancers you see for singers like Jennifer Lopez and Christina Aguilar.

This is Matt again!

Even now I love watching the male backup dancers for somebody like Jennifer Lopez. There's just something incredibly sexy about seeing all those guys moving around the stage showing us through their movements what the music and lyrics look like when it rushes through their bodies. Plus, I think the "hyperness" that comes with my ADHD is given a positive spin when I see all that energy turned into something really creative and beautiful.


3. I kissed a girl one time and actually found myself getting into it! (Clarification: This was before the two of us ever met, and it was more than just a little "friendship peck"! Oh, and she initiated it. -- I don't know why I felt the need to go into all that clarification! LOL!)

Well, the technically correct answer to this is Brad. We've both kissed one girl before (Matty wrote about his one time here), but in Matty's case he initiated the kiss (grrrrr!), and in my case, the girl initiated it. The parenthetical explanation I gave above is what makes this item mine.

What happened is when I was in high school, I gave this girl a ride home. She already knew I was gay... very gay... and she kept flirting with me. When we got to her house, she leaned over and planted a HUGE kiss on me and started tonguing me!! I swear I tried to make her stop, but.... well, that tongue was a "tongue on a mission." I had no control over it.

I went with it for about 15 seconds and then pushed her off and said, "You know I'm gay, right?" She just said, "Well, you can't blame a girl for trying." I'm trying to stay polite but I was thinking, "Yes. I can, in fact, blame you!" I didn't say that because, well, I did go with it for 15 seconds.

That was my first and only time with Girl Cooties (no disrespect to girls, just the cooties that go with some of them).


4. I'm saving up some money to buy a motorcycle.

Believe it or not, this is Brad.

There was this guy in high school who got one and he took me for a ride once, and Holy Vibrations! The feeling I got between my legs on that thing! Well, the Power, the Rumble, the Vibration... you get the picture. Right then I knew I had to have one of these things some day!

I suppose riding a motorcycle might not fit my "image" since I don't look like a Harley-type. But this is not about "image." It's just about something I want. 

Matty was a little shocked the first time I told him I might want one. He thought I was just kidding. When he realized I was serious he told me I had to get one with a seat belt and had to wear full-body armor! Oh, and get this, I couldn't go faster than 10 miles an hour!

Then I got "A Talk" about how to be careful, and did I know how many accidents people had, and riding on slippery roads when it snowed or rained...

Sweet thing. I know he was being protective, but I really just want something sleek, trim, and maybe a little pink. I'm back to the "image" thing again, I know.

5. I have a frequently recurring dream about being naked out in public, and sometimes this includes having sex with my sweetie in front of everybody.

This is Brad again. For the record, please note this is just a dream I have occasionally. We've had sex outdoors before but as far as I know there were no witnesses... except maybe for some birds, squirrels, and other random wildlife.

Oh, and this is a dream I have yet to reveal to my therapist. He might get a kick out of it because I've told him some humorous things before and he always tries to hid the beginnings of a grin before he clears his throat and says something like, "Well, Bradley. What do you make of that?" LOL!

6. I initially wanted to have a soul patch, but changed my mind and now have a chin patch.

This one is Matt. I grew a soul patch first and before it got thick I shaved it off. It just looked weired on my face. But I'm proud of the chin patch. It came in nice, I think.

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Did any of the answers surprise you?

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What's your guess, #2

Back in September we wrote a fun post (at least to us it was fun!) where we came up with a list of things about each of us and asked people to guess which item referred to Matt and which referred to Brad.

Since we're both looking for any excuse to avoid studying for final exams, which start next week, we thought we'd have a little fun like this again.

For each item below, see if you can guess which one of us it refers to.

1. Very few people know I secretly like country and western music.

2. When I was a freshman in high school, I seriously thought about studying dance professionally. I wanted to be one of those backup dancers you see for singers like Jennifer Lopez and Christina Aguilar.

3. I kissed a girl one time and actually found myself getting into it! (Clarification: This was before the two of us ever met, and it was more than just a little "friendship peck"! Oh, and she initiated it. -- I don't know why I felt the need to go into all that clarification! LOL!)

4. I'm saving up some money to buy a motorcycle.

5. I have a frequently recurring dream about being naked out in public, and sometimes this includes having sex with my sweetie in front of everybody.

6. I initially wanted to have a soul patch, but changed my mind and now have a chin patch.

Clue: Three apply to Matt and three apply to Brad. Good luck!

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{drum roll...} And the correct answers are......

Here are the correct answers to our last post:

1. To help melt away my stress at the end of the day, there's nothing better than a bubble bath and lighted candles (and a certain 'bath-mate' joining me before I get out).

This is me... Brad. When I get in a hot tub, with nicely scented water, bubbles surrounding me, soft candlelight, and maybe a little soft music in the background (like Grover Washington's 'Winelight'), I enter another world. So relaxing I could just go to sleep.

Matty makes me keep the door open so he can listen for any sounds that I've fallen asleep and drowned! Oh, the door also stays open so he can hear me when I call him to join me! Then I get him to change the music to another piece by Grover Washington, 'Just the Two of Us.'

2. When it comes to cats and dogs, I'm definitely a dog person.

When I was a little kid, I wanted a cute cat like my friend next door had, but my mom told me, "Matty, momma's allergic to cats." I had no idea what that meant. She explained she would start sneezing if there was a cat in the room. I was thinking, "Why's that a problem? Everybody sneezes?" 

She tells me now (I have no memory of this) I just looked at her and said, "Well, why can't you go live somewhere else, then?" She told me recently I was one of the most 'pragmatic' people she knows. I'm certainly glad she didn't take offense at my 'pragmatic' solution! ;)

They got me and my brothers a couple of dogs (a lab and a mutt), and I honestly always thought those dogs knew me better than some people!

3. Cats seem to fit my personality better than dogs.

Brad. Me again. My sister and I were never allowed to have pets when we were growing up. For some reason my dad thought we wouldn't take care of them (it remains a mystery to this day what that was based on) and also he said it would be too upsetting for us when they died.

I secretly pretended the other dogs and cats in the neighborhood belonged to everybody, it's just they all went to different people's houses at night.

The dogs in the neighborhood always seemed aggressive or nervous since they liked to bark at everything. There was all that talk about how dogs would bite you, and I didn't want to feel those pointed teeth in their mouth tearing into my arm -- or neck! To be honest, I always felt a little unsafe around dogs.

The cats always seemed more laid back and I liked the way their fur felt when I petted them. But the best feeling in the world was to let one sit on my lap and gently pet them until they made that low, calming, purring sound that was a signal they felt safe enough with me to close their eyes and go to sleep. I remember feeling like I could just cry when I heard that sound.

4. If I want to spend a little time by myself outside, I'd rather go for a "run" vs a "walk."

Okay, this one is me, Matt. This might have been an easy one to guess if you've ever known anyone with ADHD. I swear it always seems to take way more energy to slow myself down to walk than to take off running.

Running feels like a natural state to me. When I'm by myself, walking is soooooo boring. But for some reason that all changes when Brad and I go for a walk together. Then I feel like walking is paradise.

5. I'm so use to wearing my Red Sox baseball hat all the time, I've actually forgotten to take it off a few times when I stepped in the shower!

This one's Matt again. Baseball hats have always been a regular part of my "fashion attire." That's the fancy description Brad bestowed on me after we had been dating for a while. If we went to a restaurant for a date, I have to say I was a perfect gentleman and removed my hat inside. However, I always felt like I walked in those restaurants completely naked. There was a part of me that felt like I should use the hat to cover my privates. Seriously. Not kidding. 

I guess you could maybe call this some kind of "fetish" if you were going to analyze why I have a "thing" for always covering my head with a baseball hat. I like to keep things simple and say it's because I'm a rabid Red Sox baseball fan. Plus I just like the way it feels.

Why do I feel naked when I'm not wearing one? I'll have to send that question to Dr. Phil and get his take on it. He would probably say I have some hangup about being naked. I think this post would explain why I have no hangups about nudity. Plus, Dr. Phil might charge me for his professional opinion, and to be honest, I don't really have any interest in analyzing this issue, thank you very much! ;)

6. Most of the time, I like to stay "on top" of things sexually.

Matt. Maybe it's because there's more, uh, "movement" in this position. I'll leave my answer at that before I write out an explanation that's waaaaay too long and people start shouting, "TMI," "TMI," "TMI."

7. Most of the time, I like the "bottom line" sexually. ;-)

If you read the answer to #6, you know who this is then. That's all I'm saying! ;)

8. In the evenings, I love putting on my jammies. The most comfortable one has a Spiderman theme.

Well, this one is Brad. Matt never wears pajamas anyway. When he gets ready to settle in for the night he puts on blah gray or blah blue or blah red sweat pants! B.O.R.I.N.G! LOL!!

And wearing pajamas to bed? He says, "Why would I want to wear clothes to bed? They're pointless. Plus, the less on when we get under the covers, the quicker we can get to other business." ;)

I, on the other hand, like him undressing me in bed. Granted it's just a pajama top and bottom, but still.

And also remember that post I wrote about clothes shopping? He's not the least bit interested in spending more than 5 minutes shopping. That means he heads for the sweats, grabs a few, and on to the next department before his allotted 5 minutes is up.

There's something incredibly soft and comforting to me about wearing pajamas. They really help me feel like I'm going from "daytime" to "nighttime" and I get more relaxed that way.

9. When it's Movie Time, I prefer an action film.

This is The Mattster! I don't think I've ever mentioned this before, but one thing about ADHD is that your brain is always trying to find something to focus on.

If I'm sitting in a movie theatre or at home watching a movie and the pace is too slow, I start getting really, really antsy. When there's fast-paced action, my brain is in Heaven. It's almost like a challenge to bring things into focus so I can follow things.

When watching a slow-paced movie it's a huge challenge. I have to try really hard not to become impatient or restless. This is not to say I only like action movies. If there's a really interesting plot that has twists and turns, I'm there. If there are really interesting characters who have different sides to their personalities, I'm there.

But my overall preference is action. Fast-paced, complex, multi-layered.

10. When it's Movie Time, give me a comedy or romance any day.

For me (Brad), I like movies that take some time to develop. I like to watch how directors start out with a seemingly simple plot, gradually adding a layer of development, and slowly seeing how ordinary characters start becoming more multidimensional.

I really prefer an intelligent comedy or romance that takes its time to unfold. Again, like so much of my life, I'm drawn to things that allow me to settle in at a comfortable pace. When I start feeling rushed, I get tense. If I'm watching a movie, then I want to take my time. I'll stay with it longer that way.

Hmmm. This is making me hungry for popcorn. As I'm typing this (Thursday evening) Matty is picking out a movie for us to watch later. I know he's going to pick one I like. 

He already knows I like my movies the same way I like my loving. Let's start out slowly. Then let's add a layer of something interesting. Oh, I didn't anticipate that surprise. Oh yes. Let's see where things lead now. The climax is starting to happen. Oh, wait. What's this? Another few surprises? Ahh. Nice. I really love Movie Nights!

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What's Your Guess?

After writing some rather heavy posts lately, we wanted to do something on a much lighter note today.

We thought we might make this an occasional feature of the blog where we come up with a list of things (sometimes making them easy, other times a little harder) and see if people can guess which item is about Brad and which is about Matt. The one today is in the "easy" category.

Some of the items today are things we posted about in the past, so you might remember us mentioning them. For the things we haven't written about, you might be able to make a guess based on some ideas you have about each of our personalities.

For each item below, see if you can guess which one of us it refers to.

1. To help melt away my stress at the end of the day, there's nothing better than a bubble bath and lighted candles (and a certain 'bath-mate' joining me before I get out).

2. When it comes to cats and dogs, I'm definitely a dog person.

3. Cats seem to fit my personality better than dogs.

4. If I want to spend a little time by myself outside, I'd rather go for a "run" vs a "walk."

5. I'm so use to wearing my Red Sox baseball hat all the time, I've actually forgotten to take it off a few times when I stepped in the shower!

6. Most of the time, I like to stay "on top" of things sexually.

7. Most of the time, I like the "bottom line" sexually. ;-)

8. In the evenings, I love putting on my jammies. The most comfortable one has a Spider Man theme.

9. When it's Movie Time, I prefer an action film.

10. When it's Movie Time, give me a comedy or romance any day.

Hope you enjoyed this. Stay tuned for the correct answers!

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